LIZ SORTON | YOUTH COACH
Parent Coaching
Hello and welcome to the journey of parent coaching through the teenage and young adult years.
As our children transition from adolescence into adulthood, we, as parents, encounter a unique set of challenges and opportunities. This stage is marked by significant growth, exploration and the gradual shift towards independence. It's a time when your role evolves, requiring a delicate balance of guidance, support and understanding.
How can parent coaching help?
Parent coaching is designed to be your ally in this journey. It provides you with the tools and insights to navigate this complex phase with confidence and grace. Our focus is on enhancing communication, building trust and fostering resilience in both you and your teenagers/young adults. I aim to empower you to support your children as they face life's challenges, make important decisions and carve out their own paths.
Through coaching, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the developmental changes your teenagers and young adults are experiencing. You'll learn strategies to maintain strong, positive relationships and create a nurturing environment where they can thrive. My goal is to help you embrace this transformative period with optimism, ensuring that you and your family emerge stronger and more connected.
Some of the parenting challenges that might be familiar
Communication Barriers: As children grow, their communication style often changes. Parents might find it challenging to maintain open and effective communication, especially if your teenagers become more private or withdrawn.
Independence and Boundaries: Balancing the need for independence with appropriate boundaries can be tricky. Parents may struggle with knowing when to step in and when to let your young adults make their own decisions.
Academic and Career Pressures: Teenagers and young adults often face significant pressure regarding academic performance and career choices. Parents might find it challenging to support their children without adding to their stress.
Social and Peer Influences: Navigating social dynamics, peer pressure and the influence of social media can be daunting. Parents may worry about their children's choices and the impact of external influences.
Mental Health and Well-being: Issues related to mental health, such as anxiety and depression can emerge during these years. Parents might find it difficult to recognise signs and provide appropriate support.
Conflict Resolution: As teenagers assert their independence, conflicts may arise more frequently. Parents may need to develop new strategies for resolving disagreements constructively.
Identity and Self-Esteem: Young people often explore their identity and self-worth during these years. Parents might face challenges in supporting their children's self-discovery while ensuring they feel valued and understood.
Technology and Screen Time: Managing the use of technology and screen time can be a significant concern. Parents may struggle with setting limits and ensuring a healthy balance.
Financial Responsibility: Teaching financial literacy and responsibility is crucial as young adults prepare for independence. Parents might find it challenging to provide guidance without wanting to take over.
Transition to Adulthood: The shift from adolescence to adulthood involves numerous transitions, such as moving out or starting a job. Parents may need support in adapting to these changes and redefining their roles. By acknowledging these challenges, parent coaching can provide strategies and support to help you navigate effectively, fostering a positive and supportive environment for both you as parents and your children.
If you have any specific areas you'd like to explore further, feel free to let me know.
"As a coach myself I have a unique skill set as a parent, which sometimes means that I find myself unwittingly ‘working’ at home. Of course, actually what I needed was to be a Mum and not my children’s coach, and also for my home and time with my family to be my safe space to relax and recharge. So it was a huge relief to be able to talk to Youth coach Liz about our concerns, and for her to take over the proverbial reins from there. I was back in the role of Mum and this made a huge difference to me, and to the children"
Any of these recurring areas of conflict at home?
Curfew Violations: Disagreements over curfew times and adherence can lead to conflict and require negotiation and compromise.
Social Media and Online Behaviour: Concerns about online safety and behaviour can lead to discussions or arguments.
Peer Relationships: Issues with friends or romantic relationships can become flash points, especially if parents disapprove or feel concerned.
Privacy and Boundaries: Conflicts may arise over privacy issues, such as entering rooms without knocking or accessing personal belongings without permission.
Academic Performance: Report cards, test scores, or feedback from teachers can trigger stress and arguments, especially if expectations are not met.
Sibling Rivalry: Tensions between siblings can flare up, particularly if there are perceived inequalities in attention or privileges.
Substance Use Discussions: Conversations about alcohol, drugs, or smoking can become heated ,particularly if there are differing views on experimentation or peer pressure.
Dress and Appearance: Disagreements over clothing choices, hairstyles or piercings can lead to conflicts, especially if parents have concerns about self-expression or societal perceptions.
By identifying and addressing these areas of conflict, parents can work towards fostering a more understanding and supportive environment. Parent coaching can provide valuable strategies to navigate these challenges, helping families build stronger, more resilient relationships. If there's anything more specific you'd like to delve into, feel free to ask.
